Perfect barn wedding
Dramatic place setting, in black gold and white. Love it.
Wedding s’mores bar - love it.
How I Asked: (the Groom’s words…)
From the moment Mattye and I came into each other’s lives, this verse from Ephesians 3:20 has described every little detail of our relationship: “Now all glory to God, who is able, through His mighty power at work within us, to accomplish infinitely more than we might ask or imagine.”
Leading up to now, we often say our relationship has been storybook. Little moments will happen and I’ll just turn to Mattye and say “storybook.” She grins and gives me one of those smiles I love.
Originally I had thought about asking Mattye to be in my life forever on my birthday. I mean, who would really be getting the best gift of all on that day? God gave me all the help and blessing I could ask for by allowing the ring to be ready one day before we would leave for our trip to St. Simons. During our second day of the trip we met with David Yarborough, pastor of SSCC, to hear his heart for weddings and offer him our vision of a Godly marriage we desire to have. We talked with him about past life experiences with family and described what we thought the other really needed in a husband or a wife. He gave us the book Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas and posed the question, “What if marriage isn’t just about finding happiness, but was truly created to make us more Holy through sanctification?” Interesting question, we both thought. We believe God plants traits within us to bring our partner closer to HIM.
On the last day of our trip in the final hours of daylight we drove over to Driftwood Beach on Jekyll Island. The sun was still hanging around in the sky and a view of sunset was growing near. We met up with our friends and photographers Sarah and Brent Deshaw. Mattye didn’t know it, but I had been in contact with them sharing my plan for the proposal and orchestrating for them to photograph the special moment. All four of us walked along the driftwood trees stepping over and under branches. It was really an amazing setting, almost like a movie set. Brent and Sarah suggested we go exploring, and this was the beginning of some natural cues to come. We walked along the beach holding each other as the sun dipped lower in the sky. Sarah positioned us in some very relaxed poses, but I was a little tense. I just kept holding onto Mattye, saying I love you and giving her kisses.
Finally, the moment appeared. I said I believe that 33 years, and one day ago God had knit me together with talents and longings and a purpose. He birthed me out into this world to glorify HIM with all that I am. I believe He did not create me to be alone. I reminded Mattye that on Sunday she asked me if she would be happy in five days and I said no. Our time and prayers leading up to this moment were perfect. She wasn’t expecting a proposal and I believed she had given up control of this thing to me and God to let us handle the right timing. I talked about my heart definition of who she is. Then I told her that I could not tell her she would be happy in five days because in four days I was going to ask her to marry me. I got down on one knee and pulled the little black felt box from my pocket and said, “Mattye Caroline LaSuer, will you be in my life forever?” She covered her face and came toward me to kiss me. Then she paused to look down at the sparkling new ring that was meant for her finger. When she saw it for the first time her mouth dropped open. She finally let me take the ring and put it on her finger. We jumped, laughed, hugged, kissed, and praised our God through whom all this was possible.
He had their proposal secretly taped and shown at their wedding… so adorable.
How he asked: The day I proposed to Alexis I had taken all day trying to set up where i was going to “pop the question”. I had taken work off to make sure i was ready for it. First we went to our favorite restaurant and had an amazing meal, while we were driving home on the freeway I made sure i was in, what seemed like, the wrong lane and couldn’t exit. We got off the next exit where it took us through a canyon, we pulled off the road at a little trail head. I conveniently packed a pair of shoes that would be more comfortable for her to hike in and we went on a little adventure. Guiding us on the trail were lanterns with candles, by this point Alexis knew what was going to happen. When we reached the top of the trail, awaiting us was a two chairs and a table with a bouquet of roses and Martinelli, right behind was a barb-wire fence with all the pictures we had taken of each other from while dating and to make things better I had playing our favorite song, Magic by Colbie Caillat. I had hidden three cameras set up by one of my good friends and we watched as the sun set talking about our lives together, as the sun was setting that is when I asked!
Cute engagement photo!
How He Asked: I always dreamt of making the perfect proposal for Maie. I tried to pay attention to the small details, concentrating on what destination she’d like and daydreaming with her how it could be. I set my goals on what she’ll most probably like and what she’ll want, I didn’t want to get distracted making it flashy or “romantic” with no reason, I simply wanted it to be romantic for her, and only her. I decided that the best thing would be a raft in the middle of the sea with the perfect weather with the sunset as the background. I set off to make a raft, I looked for bamboo everywhere, and finally found it with a reasonable price. I carried it in my pick-up truck and went off to Ein El Sokhna (the closest beach to Cairo). With the help of my great friends and the use of the internet we were able to make the raft in three days. Unfortunately when trying the raft, it wasn’t stable and accordingly decided to change plans with the boat.
We set the date, and made it as if we were heading to the beach to celebrate a friend’s birthday. I asked her if she’d like to take a random ride on the jet ski. At first she wasn’t fond of the idea, then with the help of the “birthday boy” she agreed. We went off for our random ride, only to her surprise. A raft and boat with my vow to her and my promises in a ring and a letter.
Such a cute and cuddly proposal idea.